I am offering coaching and one to one support sessions for people that are dealing with narcissists in their lives and/or are recovering from relationships with narcissists, manipulators and other types of covert aggressive toxic people.
Since I have started writing about my experience recovering from a relationship with a covert narcissist here on my blog and on Quora, I have been receiving a lot of responses from people struggling with the experience.
I believe that I have reached a point where all I have learned on this life-changing journey should be put to serve others.
So what can I help you with?
- Developing communication strategies to effectively handle narcissists
- Developing your understanding of your emotional reactivity and how it hurts you in the battle with a narcissist
- Recovery from a relationship with a narcissist
- Developing your understanding of what has happened to you
- Developing your understanding of the narcissist and his or her behaviour
- Developing your understanding of cognitive dissonance and the attachment to the memory of the narcissist’s false self and how it prevents you from moving forward
- Understanding how suppressed memories of the ‘good times’ with the narcissist prevent you from moving forward
- Understanding the healing process
- Understanding your emotions
- Providing tools and guidance for dealing with the process
- Support in those dark days when it suddenly feels overwhelming
- Dealing with trauma release induced by meditation
Why I think I can support you?
Let me be clear. I can’t solve your problems. No one can. Only you. But let’s say that I might be able to make your journey a bit easier. I had to learn my lessons the hard way and if my experience can prevent one person from getting burned as badly as I got burned, then it all had a purpose.
In September 2015, I was at the lowest point in my life. Freshly discarded by a man I used to consider the love my life, I was balancing on the brink of a mental breakdown. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, I was barely holding it together.
I knew nothing about narcissism and couldn’t understand how the man who spent three years professing his undying love for me could have so suddenly turned into the ultimate jerk.
It was a long journey of discovering the truth. My deep emotional attachment to the narcissist and the abrupt discard brought to the surface all of the emotional trauma of my childhood – the loneliness, the feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, of being hated, the primal survival fear of a child not bonded with its parents.
Somehow, instinctively, I made a series of life-saving decisions. I learned transcendental meditation, and started reading everything I could on relationship psychology, co-dependency and emotional healing.
Today, less than three years later, I am psychologically in a place where I have never been before.
My childhood emotional trauma was so serious that for the majority of my adult life, I would qualify for the diagnosis of a mild borderline personality disorder. That’s all gone now. I have gained an unbelievable amount of understanding of how my family conditioning twisted my mind and made me a narcissist’s snack (I can’t even count with how many narcissists I have crashed in my life in all sorts of social situation).
I have released the trauma and learned how to harness this process to correct the faulty patterns of thinking and reacting, which result from dysfunctional upbringing.
I have also learned a lot about narcissists, how they function, how they hook you in and create the unhealthy dynamic between you and them. I understand how they function in conflict – I made every possible mistake during that process. I can teach you to spot the signs of covert aggressive behaviour, gaslighting and invalidation. It’s important to have proper strategies in place for communication with narcissists – they use everything they can against you and it is important not to give them any bullets to shoot you with.
What I believe in?
Narcissism and covert psychological and emotional abuse is a serious problem. But the society is largely oblivious to it. Victims are further victimised, dismissed, distrusted simply because of the deceitful nature of the narcissistic personality disorder. Children of narcissistic mothers are branded difficult, never offered help and support, ex spouses of narcissist have their children taken away, face smear campaigns and are frequently ostracized by their original social circles.
For some reason, the society chooses to believe the composed, controlled narcissist. The victim is emotional, upset, and angry and is usually branded crazy and difficult.
What I can provide?
I believe that we all have unique stories. There is no one size fits all solution. The emphasis needs to be on you. A victim of emotional and narcissistic abuse needs validation. We have spent our lives being invalidated – by the narcissist, by his or her flying monkeys. Many of us doubt our reality, question our judgement and blame ourselves for the situation, which in fact, has been manufactured by the narcissist.
I want to help you own your story. I will help you develop your understanding of the problem and give you tools to deal with the narcissist but also with your own emotions that are being triggered in the process.
I am not a mental health professional. If I get the impression that your emotional situation is too peculiar, I will surely tell you to seek medical help.
I understand that many people recovering from narcissistic relationships are in an extremely difficult situation, essentially rebuilding their life from rubble. I believe that everyone should be able to get support and help when they need it. I am offering flexible rates to be able to accommodate the widest possible range of clients.
Get in touch
If you think you might benefit from working with me, get in touch using the contact form below and we can take it from there.