Your emotional reactivity is the biggest weapon a narcissist is using against you – any narcissist. Your emotional reactivity are the bullets you keep handing over to the narcissist and he or she keeps shooting you with them. Your emotional reactions – that’s the narcissist having control over you and getting you where he wants you to be – looking like crazy, desperate, unstable.
You can do it better. You can get that control back. You can use this emotional energy wisely against the narcissist. But first you need to understand your emotions and what they are telling you. There are three types of emotional reactivity and each needs to be dealt with in a different way.
I explain more in this video: